About Bryan Lee Martin
I am a loving-kind person living a love-centered life. For over four decades, I’ve been a minister, teaching others about love’s transformative power.
I have two missions in life. First is to be a constant source of delight for My Beloved, Jennifer (1). We have been married a long time, mostly good times, We raised four amazing humans and they gave us twelve grandkids. With this as our life focus we live significant and meaningful natural lives. Jennifer and I are loving kind people and self designated “relationship billionaires” rich in love.
The second mission is to share the riches of our love with others. I write and we teach people how to rediscover their innate natural loving kind self. The Home Model was written as a tool to help others tap into the abundance of love resident inside them.
We had a major setback about fifteen years into our marriage. I immersed myself into the social reality of my career culture at the expense of my family. I thought I was doing the right thing as I unconsciously accepted the beliefs, values, rules, practices, goals and aspirations of the culture as the “right” way of being. This is the conflict that most people experience unconsciously, the conflict between socialization and being a natural human (2). It almost destroyed our home.
Fortunately my socialization involved getting a great education and being a life long learner (I still am). I learned about culture and the humongous power of socialization. Social reality is the greatest power humans have ever created, for better and for worse (3). Jennifer and I rediscovered our natural loving selves. We now live as natural loving kind people and we learned how to control the pressures of society.
The Home Model is our invention, based on our amazing story, research enhanced. And when you see it you will connect with it because it is based on real human life.
(Here is a link https://tinyurl.com/yz8a322z )
We now use our social reality to help us share our message. Jennifer is the leader of JMA and Associates, a real estate company that she learned from her father (4). Business is an important tool in social reality. We use it to help others. My long ministry career was the testing ground for The Home Model. In ministry I helped families from cradle to grave, literally. Those interactions helped perfect the The Home Model over the years.
The Home Model is a personal growth book cleverly disguised as our relationship story. As you read The Home Model I hope you will hear my encouraging voice and be inspired (and challenged) to grow in ways you never expected. Jennifer and I are not being trite when we say, with all our hearts, that love is the most important thing.
1) There is more information about being “a constant source of delight” in the “O” chapter in The Home Model. This is one of the greatest personal growth tools I have experienced, and continues to be so.
2) For 98% of the time homo sapiens have been around we existed as hunters and gathers, what Marshall Sahlins called “the original affluent society” because of the abundance of food and leisure time our ancient ancestors enjoyed. In the more recent 2% of our existence we have been socialized into farms and cities with complex man made cultures directing our existence. I write about this change in The Home Model.
3) Social reality is not evil. It provides tremendous benefits for people (note all the advances that help humans live better) and it can be a tool for evil (remember the holocaust of World War II).
4) JMA is the proud sponsor of The Home Model.
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Here Is Some More Details
I hold a Bachelor of Arts in Ministry, a Master of Divinity, a Doctor of Ministry, and a Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Counseling. I am lifelong learner. I was ordained in 1977 by my non-denominational Christian church.
My first professional ministry, in the late 1970s, was as Chaplain for the Orange County Juvenile Probation Department including Juvenile Hall other related facilities. At the same time I was Associate Chaplain at the old Orange County Medical Center (now the UC Irvine Medical Center). Being with unwell adults and troubled young people was a fantastic experience! I served three congregations in Fresno, California, since 1981 and working as a board-certified chaplain at the Fresno Veterans Hospital. Now retired from parish ministry, I focus on writing and teaching—having published several books on love.
Free from denominational ties or theological bias (as much as I’m aware), I tailor my services to meet people’s unique needs.
My offerings include personal development training, spiritual growth and counseling, workshops, seminars, and transitional rituals like baptisms, weddings, vow renewals, end-of-life support, funerals, memorials, and celebrations of life.
Over the years former parishioners and funeral directors have asked me to provide funeral services when the decease does not have a religious affiliation. I help these families with a "love-based service" which may or may not be spiritual or religious but is crafted to meet the family's needs. I never imagined providing these services but they are deeply meaningful to me, personally, and to the family. of course.
I also produce spiritual videos, including my recurring series, *What Was Jesus Thinking? It is deep dive into the mind of Jesus. I use the weekly Gospel reading from the Revised Common Lectionary.* This provide relevance and continuity with churches that use the lectionary (most mainline churches). Here is the YouTube link. https://www.youtube.com/@BryanMartin1954
I do not provide mental health services. Please consult a licensed professional for those needs. My work is pastoral, ministry-focused, spiritual and rooted in ancient human love.
I delight in helping people rediscover their innate loving kind nature, experience personal growth, and walk through life transitions.
Beyond family and ministry, I find great joy in nature’s beauty, especially at Yosemite National Park.
I welcome a conversation with you. I can be reached at bryanleemartin@gmail.com.
Peace, Blessings and Love, to you!
*The Revised Common Lectionary is a three-year cycle of scripture reading used in Christian worship, particularly in Protestant and some Catholic churches.